My husband should be my second priority, after God.
That means that his priorities should be my priorities.
What are his priorities? Well, I may not know all of them, but I do know three of them:
- nutritious meals for himself and the family
- and for me to be content (or "happy"--his word--but I think he means content)
- kids to pick up after themselves more
- regular, healthy meals
- a complaining spirit
- consistent training for the kids on picking up after themselves
These things are hard for me.
I certainly need work on these areas. I think this means that God wants us to grow, but it also means that to please my husband, I have to make sacrifices. I have to spend my time doing some things other than what I want to do. (It is so easy for me to justify time spent doing what I want because I spend so much of my time on the family and on the kids. And the time is usually related to the kids or homeschooling. But it is just that: justification.)
I should do what I can to please him.
Making his priorities my priorities is one way to be more pleasing.
I recently received a Laine's Letter and she talked about honoring her husband. Behaving in a manner that brought honor to him.
That is, being a good wife, mother and homemaker so that he will be held in higher regard because of those things. Also, allowing him to be free to "sit at the gates." Free to do business.
After all these years of marriage (almost 15), I still have a long way to go.
LORD, help me to make his priorities my priorities; give me the will and energy to do the things that are important to him; help me to bring honor to him and give him the time and freedom to do what he needs to do. Amen.